Boys!

I feel that there is a disconnect between what we girls think boys should be and what stupid boys actually are.  There I've said it.  It may not be always the case, and I'm not of the mindset that all boys are stupid.  In fact there are some very very non-stupid boys out there.  However, it would seem the ones I'm meeting are just not trying very hard.

This week, especially, observing a few at work has been enough to break the camel's back. To start with, the one actually pretty perfect boy is happily married.  That of course is kind of a pain.  Then there are the single but obviously single for a reason boys.  These are the ones that seem pretty nice until you talk with them for a few minutes and realize why in fact they are single in the first place.  Then there's the boy, who was originally pretty perfect on paper, that goes from perfect to crazy-pants in the drop of a hat.  This stupid boy keeps you on your toes because you can't quite figure out what you're going to get each day which is what makes him so exceedingly frustrating!

And as an intelligent, girl, you can't really figure out why you liked him/like him in the first place but that doesn't stop you from liking him in the second place.  Then there's the boy that everyone says is perfect for you but you don't really know because he's just as shy as you are and you've never actually had a conversation with him.  Ugh!  Why is this so difficult!?

Yet another reason to continent-hop.  I'm pretty sure the Brits would never put up with this behavior.  Though that may just be my idealistic view of all boys in Britain resembling Benedict Cumberbatch in one way or another...

Match or No Match?

There's something to be said about online dating sites.  From what I can tell there have been quite a few marriages and happy families made from Match or e-Harmony (at least that's what the commercials say...).  And pretty much everyone with a husband or serious boyfriend already, is convinced it's the miracle "cure" for us singles.  Just go on create a profile, and Bam!  There's your future Prince Charming.  

And I must admit I've tried; admittedly, not very hard.  I posted a few pics, made a few witty (to no one else but me) remarks, and complained when I didn't get a date.  But it's mostly because I just don't get it.  This may just be me, but I think people are judgemental in general.  The first tiny grammatical error or missed comma, and I'm judging him for being an idiot.  Then there's what we choose to post.  You (or I for that matter) can post anything we want up there, and who's there to verify it?  I can post a resume to rival the Dalai Lama and photo that looks like Cindi Crawford and who's to say I'm not beautiful and brainy?

I've said it before that I have visions in my head of meeting someone the old fashioned way.  Bumping into him on the street or being introduced at a function or at work.  But obviously, that's not working for me.  So maybe I need to try a little harder with this Match stuff even though I don't believe in it all that much.  

I read a quote recently that said something to the effect of, once you find that one special person, you'll wonder why everything was so difficult in the first place.  I certainly hope that's the case.  I just wish the wondering would start sooner rather than later...