I'm the first to admit that BuzzFeed can be a fairly ridiculous website focused on odd lists and hot people doing strange things. However, once in a while, these crazy lists can be quite helpful. Today's 40 bits of advice for shy people was one of those lists. If nothing else, it proves that I'm not the only one in the world that has these thoughts...on a daily basis.
People like to think that saying "stop being shy" is actually helpful in the long run. That it's one of those things that can just be turned on or off. But it's not. When you think about it, there are worse things one can be, than shy like depressed or anxious but at the time, when you're feeling shy, you can't think like that. You can only focus on the fact you've said something ridiculous, or completely blanked or are literally just staring at a person because you're willing them to fill in the gap in the conversation.
That's why tips like these are useful. I'm not sure what to do in social situations - as Pinterest says, "social awkwardness is my super power." Having some things in my back pocket to bring up in conversation is a saving grace. I'm not saying actually saying these things is going to happen, but if push comes to shove, I can.
My favorite though is number one on the list. When meeting people, they have no expectation of your shyness. Basically I can be who I want to be rather than who I am. It'd be nice to focus on that rather than the fear I'll say something stupid or embarrassing. Why have I not thought of this before? It seems fairly simple but apparently, I've been missing this simple fact for forever : )
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