Something I've Never Thought of Before...

Let's start by saying, I'm not sure where my head is going with this post.  It's sort of a rambling train of thought, so if that's not your thing turn back now. 

But,  I have a friend who moved to MD about 5 years ago.  He's lived all over for 5-8 year periods of time his entire life.  He's not close to his family and he's quite quiet.  He was saying today that he doesn't really have a lot of friends here in MD but he still likes it and wants to stay in the area.  Even after he spent the weekend having a grand old time with college friends that live in another state.

So in my head, I realized, that could be me living in England or San Francisco or New York.  I have images of myself living the high life in these places surrounded by new friends and old friends that visit all the time.  But chances are, as quiet as I am that wouldn't be the case.  I'd probably be just as contained as he is here in MD.  So why in the world do I want to do it?

I asked him flat out - if he was unhappy why wouldn't he jump up and try somewhere new and he said that he could, but it could be just as bad.  At least here he's comfortable in an apartment finally, even if his job and life aren't the best.  And I think that's where we differ.  Why stick with something that you know isn't making you happy?  Even though, it could be rough or lonely at times, I'm all for the adventure of something new!  At this point in my life, if I could find a job somewhere else that would support me, I'd love nothing more than to jump at the chance.  Honestly, in a few years, I'd probably wind up right back here in good old MD, but at least I'd have had the chance to see what's out there and how the other half lives. 

I wish I could make a lot of people see that.  I sometimes think my friends think I'm a little off kilter; always talking about going somewhere new, or trying new ways of living.  They're so settled in what they have now, that they can't see past it.  Believe me I want to be settled with a husband and couple of kids and I'm sure my friends do too, but we're not right now, unfortunately.  So before that happens, shouldn't we have a bit of fun and maybe meet some hunky eligible bachelors who may be doing the same thing?

Ok rant over. See?  It's a bit of a ramble...Sorry about that.  Too many thoughts and opinions in this noggin of mine.